The super insecure person risks creating unhealthy, restrictive relationships with their loved ones if they don’t learn this skill.
By Brigette Cormier | April 2, 2025
Mental discipline is the ability to stop yourself from thinking something, and to redirect your thoughts elsewhere. With practice, it gets easier.
In dealing with your own insecurity, mental discipline gives you the ability to redirect yourself away from emotionally spiraling by not allowing yourself to let your mind take certain insecure thoughts too far, to prevent negative self-talk.
When insecurity arrives it gives a person the opportunity to assess if they want to grow their confidence on this topic so that it no longer bothers them, or to decide that they want to retain that vulnerability and instead no longer engage with whatever is causing the insecurity. We have a choice.
Your sensitivity to your own insecurity is yours to navigate, and if you want to avoid feelings of insecurity altogether then you might find yourself lonely and isolated from everyone, because no one wants to be in a relationship where they are walking on eggshells and feel restricted in their self expression trying to avoid other’s triggers.
This means some insecurity is necessary sometimes. Sometimes, insecurity arrives because we realize we can be and do better, but we’re not there yet. Sometimes we have to work to gain our security. We have to practice to get better at something when it doesn’t come naturally. Your insecurity can turn into security with practice, if that’s what you want.
In dynamics that are manipulative and unhealthy for you, where there is an imbalance of power, a person may attempt to trigger insecurity in you where you are not insecure. This attempt to dismantle your confidence is a manipulative tactic to make you weak and codependent to them, dependent on their validation. In these cases, insecurity arises not as a sign from our inner self that growth is possible, but instead is a result of psychological abuse. Insecurity is how it feels when someone is trying to dismantle your power and it’s working.
This is why I say, it’s up to you to decide what to do in response to insecurity.
Our insecurity can communicate to us where growth is possible, where work is needed, and for the person invested in personal growth, this is valuable. For the person interested in getting better, insecurity is valuable because it shows where to level up; whether it’s leveling up on the inside through personal transformation, or leveling up one’s outside world by identifying and rejecting power-diminishing influences.
With love, Brigette 🌹
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